The Predator: A Mirror of Dread (Narcissus’s Reflection, The Narcissist's Mirror)

Violence against women is classless and colorless. Abusers wear suits, uniforms, badges and casual wear. They carry guns, fly kites, paint murals, march for liberation. They connect, hide, and get tucked away into nonprofit boards or corporate positions where they are enabled and empowered. They center themselves around, or masquerade about as do gooders with leaders who brand themselves as community organizers who "Spark Change" and "bring organizers, artists, and leaders together to learn, to create, and to build a just future" with "popular" democracy. Leaders who aim "To realize freedom and dignity for all," ... generate opportunity—"to rejuvenate, dream, build community, create & take courageous action". Abusers infiltrate movements for social justice, against injustice, economic inequality, fair housing, and often women's rights. Abusers number one weapon of choice is coercive control, seeking prey that is empathetic, and compassionate, individuals who are likely to provide the admiration, submission, and validation narcissists crave. The perpetrator targets those with high emotional intelligence, strong caretaking skills, or resources, often manipulating them through guilt, bullying and violence to maintain control. Their enablers will help build a facade around them, provide them employment, housing, and overall- an appearance of stability and trust. Placing communities in harms way.

One such predator has been tucked away on the board of nonprofit whose mission is: "... a strategy center for social movements that sparks political and personal liberation. We provide rigorous and joyful spaces for organizers, leaders and artists to learn, to create, and to strengthen our capacity to win. We strive to build a powerful culture that lifts us out of the immediate and enables us to envision and realize our way to a just future."

This predator had an Order of Protection against him for 5 years and coerced his victim into silence through the Family Court system. An extension of the 5 yr OOP has been filed. He is now being protected by leaders, and paid by donors, of this nonprofit.

A Mirror of Dread goes by his middle name. Full name initials: S.A.E.. Violent behind closed doors. Presents all characteristics and behavior of a narcissistic psychopath, a predator. Highly manipulative, controlling and insidious. A con artist. Uses women for housing and money. A kite maker, paints murals, claims invention of art form with "talented" insects.

"Defined by emotional volatility, a lack of empathy, and delusions of superiority and entitlement, Narcissistic Personality Disorder is linked with interpersonal exploitation, rage, and aggression, most often directed at family members. Making matters worse, narcissists compulsively deny their behavior and project it onto the people they hurt, and they frequently cultivate a likable or even do-gooder public persona that belies their ongoing abuses behind closed doors."

Know the 🚩🚩🚩 of COERCIVE CONTROL, NARCISSISTIC ABUSE. Promises to change, seek anger management, and pleas for forgiveness are manipulation tactics. Anger is not the issue. Having CONTROL is. Violence WILL escalate. Don't allow him to convince you to drop charges if filed. He has a harem of enablers aka "flying monkeys". He uses many dating sites to trap women when needing and seeking new supply.

After briefly dating he rushes to an exclusive relationship. Control begins. He isolates his target from friends and family. Monitors and tracks your phone and time. If you resist he turns violent. First violent episode charges were filed, but he convinced victim to drop. Stating it would never happen again. The second time he destroyed victims home and set her personal belongings on fire after she fled his violent rage. It took 4 times to break free as victim feared for her life if she stayed, or left. When refusing contact with him, he made threats of revenge porn, suicide, and ruining her life. Time between violent episodes shortened, the physical and emotional abuse, threats and intimidation intensified. Order of Protection was granted through Family Court. Two warrants were issued and he evaded authorities through the statute of limitations. Law enforcement, Family Court and lawyers who are ignorant of coercive control and narcissistic abuse continue to fail victims.

The following images and writings are the unveiling of the truth.

Domestic Violence In The Courtroom: The Legal System As A Weapon In Domestic Violence Cases

How Domestic Violence Perpetrators Manipulate Systems

Order Of Peace (OOP journal)

"We provide alleged criminals the right to legal counsel, yet we are unable to extend the same rights to victims protecting themselves and their children. Our systems, by design, protect perpetrators, not victims." - Lauren Free

Coercive Control

Red flags of coercive control

A Guide to Coercive Control

Coercive Control: The narcissist's weapon of choice.

Coercive control is a strategic form of ongoing oppression and terrorism used to instill fear. The abuser will use tactics, such as monitoring all communication, as a controlling effort.

Delusional ideation, paranoia, and the need for uniqueness as mediators between two forms of narcissism and conspiracy beliefs

Narcissists’ proneness to conspiracy belief is partly driven by a desire to be unique and heightened paranoia

Narcissistic Abuse: Turns out, narcissists are more likely to post revenge porn online

It is a deadly cycle.

It is critical to know the red flags narcissistic abuse experiences are.

The cycle of abuse. "Domestic" abusers repeat these four stages over and over, trapping victims.

A very important article to read: Why domestic violence victims don’t leave

Coercive control is the narcissist's number one weapon of choice.

“Adults can’t just leave the situation. Leaving an abuser, especially a highly manipulative and vengeful narcissist, is rarely easy to do. Partners of narcissists, particularly women, are frequently isolated from friends and family, drained of financial resources, and bullied into compliance with threats of assault, withdrawal of support, loss of child custody, and homelessness.”

If you or someone you care about is experiencing coercive control, there is help. The National Domestic Violence Hotline recognizes narcissistic abuse and trauma and is available 24/7 in more than 200 languages. Call 1-800-799-7233 to talk with an advocate.